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Is there any truth to dating / marrying partners like our parents?

Is there any truth to dating / marrying partners like our parents?

Because of what happens growing up, we have unmet needs, lost parts, protective behaviors – I call it our “baggage”.

Going through our childhood into our adult life, we bring all those aspects of ourselves into our relationships. If there was a certain piece that wasn’t met during childhood, we want to try to resolve that somehow as adults. We’re attracted to somebody that has those characteristics – both negative and positive, that we subconsciously need. They trigger things for us, and it’s in those moments that we can see what we must push past and grow from. You’re never going to find a perfect partner. We always think that once conflict happens, we bolt. Really, conflict is growth waiting to happen. That is a huge thing in relationships.

So, does dating / marrying partners like our parents likely happen? Yes, yes it does.

As human beings, we are drawn on an unconscious level toward the familiar. For a someone whose parental connections taught her that people are loving, dependable, and trustworthy, she will likely be attracted to someone similar. But for those who had insecure feelings in childhood, the familiar for them can be dangerous territory.

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapist - marrying partners like our parentsRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.


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Is the GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT Workshop for Non-Married Couples?

Is GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT Workshop for Non-Married Couples?

Quite often I receive phone calls from people who are not yet married, are living together, or planning on getting married. And they ask me, is the Getting The Love You Want workshop appropriate for us? Do you have to be married?

My answer is no – you don’t have to be married. The beauty of coming to our workshop before you decide to get married is that you get the Imago relationship toolbox and become more self-aware. This is another level of achieving spirituality and connection in a relationship.

Why not troubleshoot anything and learn how to communicate more effectively so that in 20, 30, 40 years down the road, you don’t have the problem that you may or could have started out with.

Join us for our next couples workshop January 26 & 27, 2019

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