Category: Relationship Tips

The Art of Communication

Common Communication Issues in Relationships

The big challenge for couples is to try to understand that…

  1. You’re not symbiotic.
  2. You came into this relationship as two individuals.
  3. Both of your opinions/perspectives can exist in the same space (and believe it or not, both are right).

The Art of Communication

Different opinions are not right or wrong – it’s just allowing your partner to exist in the same space as you. They don’t have to think exactly like you. Your way is not the right way, but just simply, your way.

Learning how to communicate effectively in a relationship can drastically improve your love life, no matter how long you’ve been together, but sometimes that can feel like a big, overwhelming task. Learning the art of communication can really save what could be a healthy, thriving, relationship.

Attend our boot camp-style couples workshop to learn effective strategies to communicating better!

Open, honest communication is important in a healthy relationship. Learn how you and your partner can communicate better in this couples workshop hosted by Robin Newman and her husband Don.

Find the next workshop dates my husband and I will be hosting here.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

The Art of Communication Weekend Couples Workshop Long Island

Getting The Love You Want: Weekend Couples Workshop

Become the most connected couple you know with this Long Island weekend workshop to help you & your partner enhance closeness, communicate better, and experience a deeply fulfilling & lasting relationship.

SAT & SUN, SEPTEMBER 21 & 22, 2019, 9:30-7:00 PM

575 Broadhollow Road Melville, NY 11747
(MAKE IT A GETAWAY: located across the street from Hilton hotel.)

Robin Newman, LCSW-R, PCYour relationship is much more likely to be a long, happy one if you and your partner both make an active effort to communicate, both well and often. If you want to learn the secrets to long-term relationship success, attend our weekend workshop or contact me today for more information on couples counseling.

Breakfast, refreshments & snacks included.

$545.00 per couple.

** This workshop is designed for married and single couples of all gender and sexual orientations.

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT - a guide for couples

The New York Times Bestselling Guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship.

Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of people experience more satisfying relationships and is recommended by professional therapists and happy couples around the world.

TRANSFORMATION IS NEAR

·     Become passionate best friends again.
·     Learn how to end the power struggles.
·     Harness conflict and redirect to growth.
·     Start the journey of healing.

For more info., contact Robin Newman (631) 421-4701.

Long Island Couples Workshop September 2019Do any of these describe your relationship?

Do you LOVE each other, but feel DISTANT & DISCONNECTED?

Do you want more ROMANCE & INTIMACY?

Do you WONDER what happened to the PASSION of earlier days?

Do you wish you ARGUED less & TALKED more?

Are you ANGRY all of the time & easily IRRITATED?

Do you long to feel more CONNECTED?

Then JOIN US for our next GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT weekend couples workshop!

Long Island Weekend Couples WorkshopRobin Newman, LCSW, and her husband Don will guide you and your partner to deeper levels of connection and wholeness using Imago Relationship Therapy, a transformational approach that allows you to experience new levels of safety and appreciation.

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

Getting the Love You Want bookA marriage therapist and counselor explains that most of the feelings of receiving inadequate love come from unresolved childhood conflicts and describes how adults can learn to flourish as loving and loved people.

The New York Times bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship, now fully revised with a new forward and a brand new chapter!

The Getting the Love You Want book has helped millions of people experience more satisfying relationships and is recommended every day by professional therapists and happy couples around the world.

Dr. Harville Hendrix & Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt explain how to revive romance and remove negativity from daily interactions, to help you:

· Discover why you chose your mate
· Resolve the power struggle that prevents greater intimacy
· Learn to listen – really listen – to your partner
· Increase fun and laughter in your relationship
· Begin healing early childhood experiences by stretching into new behaviors 
· Become passionate friends with your partner
· Achieve a common vision of your dream relationship

Officially celebrating 30 years in this edition!

Become the most connected couple you know with this revolutionary guide, combining behavioral science, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neuroscience to help you and your partner recapture joy, enhance closeness, and experience the reward of a deeply fulfilling relationship.

INTERESTED IN TRYING IT OUT?

JOIN OUR LONG ISLAND COUPLES WORKSHOPS TO LEARN RELATIONSHIP TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE

Long Island couples workshops held by Robin Newman, LCSW are a great way to discover what really lies beneath triggered reactions in romantic partnerships and how to make lasting change. Move into more conscious connection and have the relationship of your dreams!

compassion

Tara Brach

“Imagine you are walking in the woods and you see a small dog sitting by a tree. As you approach it, it suddenly lunges at you, teeth bared. You are frightened and angry. But then you notice that one of its legs is caught in a trap. Immediately your mood shifts from anger to concern: You see that the dog’s aggression is coming from a place of vulnerability and pain. This applies to all of us. When we behave in hurtful ways, it is because we are caught in some kind of trap. The more we look through the eyes of wisdom at ourselves and one another, the more we cultivate a compassionate heart.”

– Tara Brach

Empathy is directly related to one’s satisfaction with a romantic partner, and therefore, most approaches to couples therapy explicitly address empathy as a means for creating positive relational change.

When faced with a disagreement, how do you usually react?

Are you able to see / hear your partner’s views with an open mind?

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is practiced at The Huntington Relationship Center in Long Island, NY. Imago is a form of marriage therapy that takes a relationship approach rather than an individual approach to problem solving in a marriage. It was co-developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, and documented in Hendrix’s 1988 book, “Getting the Love You Want, A Guide for Couples.”

Contact Robin Newman today to find out more.

Harville Hendrix quote

Harville Hendrix

Consciousness is Key –

When we are unaware of the unconscious agenda of romantic love, it is a disaster, for our childhood scenarios inevitably repeat themselves with the same devastating consequences. There is method to this madness, though. The unconscious recreation of the ambiance of childhood has the express purpose of bringing this old impasse to a resolution.

When we understand that we have chosen our partners to heal certain wounds, and that the healing of those wounds is the key to the end of longing, we have taken the first step on the journey to real love.

Read more about marriage counseling at our Long Island location.

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couples workshop JAN 26 & 27, 2019

“Is Now a Good Time to Talk?”

Introducing couples to relationship growth and healing through Imago therapy.

Communicating in a relationship – learn intentional dialogue in Imago relationship therapy.

Make sure that you ask your partner, “Is now a good time to talk?” or “Do you have the time to talk?”

Getting The Love You Want Workshop - The Art of Communication - Is Now a Good Time to Talk? Getting The Love You Want – A Workshop for Couples in Long Island, New York.

The next available workshops are:

JANUARY 26 & 27, 2019
FEBRUARY 16 & 17, 2019
MARCH 2 & 3, 2019

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

ABOUT ROBIN NEWMAN:

I work with couples, families and individuals. I’m successful in guiding my patients through anxiety, depression, self-esteem challenges, addictions, and/or family conflicts.

The key for me is always in the patient who has the courage and openness to heal. We all have wounds that can hold us back from creating satisfying relationships. It is a privilege and a blessing to be invited into the lives of others and assist them in having a more productive and healed life.

Robin & Don

Relationship Tip #18

Make “moments of connection” special.

Robin & Don - Make "moments of connection" special.Research shows that certain moments in your day, as a couple, do matter.

These are:

  • when you first awake
  • when you leave for work
  • when you return home
  • when you say goodnight

Take the time to greet each other, hug, kiss, look at each other eye to eye or anything else that helps you feel connected.

Couples Therapy Long Island, NY

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it is obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how a couple deals with rough patches and moves ahead.

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marriage therapy Huntington, NY

Imago Relationship Therapy – Appreciate Your Partner

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC

Individual, Family & Couples Counseling Long Island, NY.

Appreciate Your Partner

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

couples counseling Long IslandABOUT ROBIN NEWMAN:
I am a licensed clinical social worker, Imago relationship therapist, as well as an adjunct professor at the Graduate School of Social Work at Adelphi University. I’m a contributing therapist to Ladies Home Journal Magazine, “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” and the online magazine “Parenting Special Needs, Relationship Rescue”.

I work with couples, families and individuals.

I’m successful in guiding my patients through anxiety, depression, self-esteem challenges, addictions, and/or family conflicts. The key for me is always in the patient who has the courage and openness to heal. We all have wounds that can hold us back from creating satisfying relationships. It is a privilege and a blessing to be invited into the lives of others and assist them in having a more productive and healed life.

What happens to us when we are in a long term relationship and suddenly the sparks and commonalities no longer seem to apply?

Words I hear often from couples when they come to my office.

“You’re not the person who I married.”

“What happened to us?”

“We used to have fun and share the same things in common.”

Long Term Relationship Foundation IssuesWhat happens to us when we are in a long term relationship and suddenly the sparks and commonalities no longer seem to apply?

Long Term Relationship Foundation Issues

One thing I know for certain, is that we are younger, less experienced people when we first meet. Perhaps more optimistic and less jaded by what life throws us.

Different life experiences happen which creates stress that creeps into our lives. We have children, we lose jobs, we get new ones.. gain some weight, lose some hair.. begin to snore..

Our foundation isn’t sturdy enough so we become easily shaken by our ever-changing environment.

If our foundation is strong and our connection to one another is present and conscious, then perhaps we can tackle the events of life together.

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Relationship Tip #17

“Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reasoning and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.”

Thich Nhat Hahn - Relationship Tip #17

Relationship Tip #17:  This quote from Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hahn reminds us that blaming another person does not work; what works is understanding the other.

I find it helps to remember that whatever your partner says or does makes sense to him or her even if it makes no sense to you.

For information on our next couples workshop, click here.

 

5 WEEK COUPLES INTENSIVE WORKSHOP
Spice Up Your Relationship & Reconnect With Your Partner
May 24th – June 28th * Thursdays, 7:00 PM – 8:30 PM

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