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Listening To Your Partner With Neutrality

Robin Newman and David Weber discuss how they see couples shut down communicating with one another, and how it leads to less and less communication overall. Listening to your partner with neutrality / keeping your defenses down leads to more emotional intimacy — a closeness between two people who feel safe and secure with each other — it is one of the ways that we form trust.

Communication is 50% speaking and 50% listening.

Even if you disagree with what your partner is saying, do you still give them the opportunity to be themselves and tell you how they honestly feel? Listening to your partner with neutrality can be a total game changer in relationships.

Through Imago dialogue, couples can learn how to clearly communicate their desires / frustrations.

If you feel that your relationship is lacking intimacy, I highly encourage you to look into the Imago Dialogue. As an Imago Relationship Therapist, I help guide couples who struggle for re-connection to find their way, develop better communication skills, and fully be heard and understood. Once this happens, couples open up, their hearts open, and their relationships are revived with a new hope and feeling of intimacy with one another.

Effective communication is really the lubrication to your relationship. It matters to both partners to have the freedom and safety to express their concerns/resentments/issues and fully be heard.

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David Weber - Holistic Counseling Long Island
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Imago relationship therapists on Long Island discuss the benefits of Imago therapy.

Imago relationship therapists, Robin Newman and David Weber, both practicing on Long Island, discuss some of the benefits of Imago therapy.

What made you decide that you wanted to be an Imago therapist and not a regular marriage counselor?

David Weber - The Holistic Counseling Center of Long Island
David Weber:

Well, in my early days of my career, I did regular marriage counseling, and it was essentially being a referee in a boxing ring, and it didn’t really seem like it went anywhere. Could I reach détente with the couple? Yes. Would it evolve beyond that? Not really. I got the feeling that they would have to come in more for ‘tune-ups’ or even more than that, especially if a bigger issue came up.

I found that when I learned about Imago, first off, it made a lot of sense to me, and secondly, once I was able to put it into practice after I completed my training a number of years ago, I found that the couples responded better, at least with empathy and compassion, because they are trying to view their partner through that lens now. Then, I don’t have to play referee as much.

For additional information about the benefits of Imago therapy or visiting The Holistic Counseling Center of Long Island, visit David’s website.

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Mens’ vs. Womens’ Roles in Relationships

Long Island Imago Relationship Therapists discuss the bigger issues counseling couples – the differences between mens’ vs. womens’ roles in relationships, and how they might differ according to age and attachment style.

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Mens’ vs. Womens’ Roles in Relationships:

How much does age affect our perceived roles?

How hard is it to change roles in a relationship?

How genders may gravitate towards maximizer vs. minimizer attachment styles.

THE HUNTINGTON RELATIONSHIP THERAPY CENTER

Robin Newman, LCSW-R, PC

148 East Main Street (Suite 102) Huntington, NY 11743

(631) 421-4701

  • Licensed clinical social worker
  • Imago relationship therapist
  • Senior adjunct professor at Adelphi University graduate school of social work

Robin works with couples, families and individuals. She’s successful in guiding patients through anxiety, depression, self-esteem challenges, addictions, family conflicts, and couple’s conflicts.

Imago Relationship Therapists talk about work and family dynamics in relationships / marriages.
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Imago Relationship Therapists talk about work and family dynamics in relationships / marriages.

Robin Newman, owner of the Huntington Relationship Center, and David Weber, owner of the Holistic Counseling Center of Long Island, talk about work and family dynamics in relationships / marriages.

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How do couples split the balance of taking care of / spending time with children?

How do husbands and wives support one another with their careers?

How should couples split responsibilities within the household?

If you are having a difficult time managing work, kids, chores, quality time, etc. and would like to hash out a plan, consider speaking with a counselor who can assist you in creating an outline.

Juggling careers and family is tough. The dual-earner model is now more common than the male breadwinner model. Men and women no longer specialize in one role. Both are involved in paid work and care for children and the elderly. The challenge of this juggling act is to maintain optimal performance at work and at home.

For instance, a parent might leave the office in time to pick up their kid from school, but then, exhausted, lack the energy to listen to their partner while fixing dinner later that night. Or, a person might manage to complete a work report by their deadline but miss out on happy hour and a chance to connect with their colleagues due to responsibilities at home. In other words, juggling multiple roles can put relationships under pressure — because we simply can’t do it all.

Imago Relationship Therapy Specialists Can Help You With Work And Family Dynamics

Serving Nassau & Suffolk County on Long Island

Huntington    Miller Place    West Hempstead

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Imago Relationship Therapy for Parents and Children

Imago Relationship Therapy for Parents and Children with Long Island Therapist Robin Newman, LCSW

Imago relationship therapy can be used for families, couples, and individuals. Imago therapists are trained to provide support to people dealing with issues such as ongoing conflict, ineffective communication, blended families, in-laws, empty nest syndrome, addictions, sexuality, negative relationship patterns and much much more.

Imago Relationship Therapy for Parents and Children: If you are experiencing negative, repetitive issues within your family and can’t find a solution, consider speaking with an Imago therapist.

Therapy can help families with:

  • identifying the cycles that lead them to approach each other in ways that keep the problems going.
  • addressing any underlying needs that are being unmet.
  • communicating with one another to keep from getting caught up in conflict in the future.
  • forging a closer, more intimate connection with one another.

Robin Newman, LCSW, provides in-person therapy for children, adolescents, and adults who may be struggling with a wide range of challenges. Her office is located in Suffolk County, Long Island:

THE HUNTINGTON RELATIONSHIP CENTER
148 East Main Street (Suite 102) Huntington, NY 11743

Contact Robin online or by calling (631) 421-4701 to set up an appointment today.

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Imago Relationship Therapy for Individuals Long Island, NY

The Huntington Relationship Center offers Imago Relationship Therapy for Individuals, Couples & Families in Long Island, New York

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC offers Imago relationship therapy for individuals.

Part of our problem is in how we may have been brought up. We don’t always know better, but when equipped with the right knowledge, we can break our learned behaviors and have a better quality of life through better relationships.

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

ABOUT ROBIN NEWMAN:

I am a licensed clinical social worker, Imago relationship therapist, as well as an adjunct professor at the Graduate School of Social Work at Adelphi University. I’m a contributing therapist to Ladies Home Journal Magazine, “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” and the online magazine “Parenting Special Needs, Relationship Rescue”.

I work with couples, families and individuals. I’m successful in guiding my patients through anxiety, depression, self-esteem challenges, addictions, and/or family conflicts.

The key for me is always in the patient who has the courage and openness to heal. We all have wounds that can hold us back from creating satisfying relationships. It is a privilege and a blessing to be invited into the lives of others and assist them in having a more productive and healed life.

Robin Newman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker Long Island therapists
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Are therapists paid to agree with you?

Robin Newman, Imago relationship therapist: Are therapists paid to agree with you?

I often get the question if I ever ‘agree’ with my clients.

So, here’s my answer to that:

I will always agree with blatant injustice. But, I feel that if I agree completely, I’m letting the person off the hook of looking at what their duplicity is. What they are doing to participate in the relationship / situation that they are in?

If I just agree, then how am I helping them to see and to prevent the next ‘set up’ because I always say to people that things come in different disguises.

So if I just agree with you saying he / she is a jackass, etc. and then you get into a new relationship with someone else and you’re doing the same things again. How is that helping you?

I’m going to be more in the realm of saying, yeah, that wasn’t such a great thing that he / she did to you, but what did you to participate? What patterns are you following / stuck in? What kinds of people are you choosing to surround yourself with to find yourself still getting into these situations?

For more info. on counseling, contact Robin Newman, LCSW

Robin Newman, social worker & owner of the Huntington Relationship Center in Long Island, NY.

Robin Newman, LCSW-R, PC THE HUNTINGTON RELATIONSHIP CENTER

Imago Relationship Therapists – Individual, Couples & Family Counseling

148 East Main Street (Suite 102) Huntington, NY 11743 (631) 421-4701

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How we feed into our depression / anxiety

Another question that is often asked to me when people are calling me up to sort of screen me to see if I’m the right fit is they’ll ask me, how I work with their depression / anxiety?

I try to approach it as a relational model.

I do Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as well.

Most people that are coming to me individually, they are coming in because from a relational perspective, they feel immobilized. They are in a relationship. They want to blame their parents, spouse, children, boss, etc.. whoever it is.

I try to create a construct for them to look at how are YOU feeding into the problem?

How are you making yourself the victim vs. the victor?

We try to focus on being curious again and filled with wonder about how do I participate in this relational dance as opposed to looking to blame, shame, or throw it off on someone else.

Let’s face it: we all want to completely control our outcomes in everything.

I think if we can spend less time thinking about what other people may be thinking, and spend more time thinking about what WE can do to change or shift the outcome, we’ll usually find a favorable outcome.

If there isn’t a favorable outcome, then you have the opportunity to look at the situation and say, ok so, now what do I do with the situation now that this person is not accepting the boundaries that I’ve expressed to them?

Individual counseling is meant to help people with emotional & other mental health issues such as depression / anxiety, which can range in severity / intensity. Get the help you need in a 100% safe space.

Contact Robin for additional information on therapy sessions.

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Robin Newman licensed clinical social worker Long Island, marriage counselor talks about empathy
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How do you teach empathy?

Robin Newman, how do you teach empathy?

Empathy is the ability to emotionally understand what other people feel, see things from their point of view, and imagine yourself in their place. Essentially, it is putting yourself in someone else’s position and feeling what they must be feeling.

I like to explain empathy as looking at a sunset. Imagine standing next to your partner on a dock looking at a sunset. Everyone sees colors differently. What colors are you seeing? What colors does your partner see? Maybe you do this in real life to show how differently we all see and what we focus on.

This is a glimpse into empathy. It’s all about perception. Maybe you focus on the blues and your partner is seeing more oranges in a sunset. Is there a correct answer to what we’re seeing? Not really… it’s just what we as individuals personally focus on.

Empathy is about letting go of our vision and truly trying to see someone else’s.

If we can only learn to see things through another person’s eyes, our understanding of other people would be greater, maybe our tolerance and acceptance would be greater, and our relationships (in all forms) would be better.

CONTACT ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

couples counseling - love & empathy

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

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Therapy for Better Mental Health

Therapy for better mental health with Robin Newman, licensed social worker in Long Island, NY

So, somebody said to me, “ugh, 2020.. it sucked..” Yeah, it did.

But I’ll tell you something really great that came out of 2020.

More people now, than ever before, are finally looking at mental health / therapy as a viable, positive option to feeling better and making themselves better.

Is alcoholism and substance abuse up? There’s no question.

My phone has been ringing off the hook. I’m happy about that on some level because whatever existed before where people were going through life and just essentially existing, not addressing. Now, people have to look at things.

People are looking at therapists in a whole different light than they ever did before.

Contact Robin Newman, LCSW-R, PC

Imago Relationship Therapist
Individual, Couples & Family Counseling

THE HUNTINGTON RELATIONSHIP CENTER

Individual counseling is meant to help people with emotional & other mental health issues which can range in severity / intensity. Get the help you need in a 100% safe space.

Problems with anger management, often called having “anger issues,” only becomes a problem when you can no longer control it.

When one is looking for a steady balance in mind than being on a roller coaster of highs and lows of self-esteem, counseling indeed helps.

148 East Main Street (Suite 102) Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

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couples counseling - communication techniques

Listening To Your Partner With Neutrality

Robin Newman and David Weber discuss how they see couples shut down communicating with one another, and how it leads to less …