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In our search to create meaning in our relationships with our significant others, we decide that perhaps children will connect us intimately.

What saddens me about our culture, is that we tend to take our children as hostages.

Search for Meaning by Having KidsIn our search to create meaning in our relationships with our significant others, we decide that perhaps children will connect us intimately. So we have a few. We wait and wait for the instant gratification of our connection to resume or happen. What’s so sad is that it doesn’t and now there are children involved in the same dynamic that the couple created.

Over the years, I have heard from so many couples who knew it wasn’t working and had children anyway.

Some are tired and don’t want to do the work. They will call me a few times and reach out but decide that, putting the time and effort into their relationship isn’t worth it at this point. So, we end up with more carnage by inflicting our poor way of communicating in our marriage onto our children. We are their role models, their compass in the storm.

We enable them to lose their way.

Then we wonder, “why did they choose the partner that they did”?

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Relationship Tip #11

Relationship Tip #11

Relationship Tip #11

Poet John Donohue said,
“bless the space between us.”

Think of your relationship as living in the space between both of you, and remember to take care of that space.

Everything you say and everything you do affects the space (your relationship) :

the way you look at each other,
the tone of voice you use,
the words you speak,
the way you touch each other,
if you smile,
if you roll your eyes,
and everything else.

Allow yourself to be fully seen by your partner.

Allow yourself to be fully seen by your partner.

Allow yourself to be fully seen by your partner. Couples workshops with Robin Newman, LCSW. Really being seen. We feel loved …

Our partners think & love differently from us - NY Couples Workshops - Getting The Love You Want

Our partners think & love differently from us

Not Like You: our partners think & love differently from us – NY Couples Workshop – Getting The Love You …

GTLYW Workshop Feb 21 & 22, 2020

Are we really drawn to partners like our parents?

Couples Workshop February 2020: Are we really drawn to partners like our parents? Our parents’ business: No person …