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Couples Therapy Maya Kollman • relationships • surrender to love March 7, 2019 By Robin Newman 0 Comments

Surrender to Love

Imago relationship specialist, Maya Kollman, speaking about a deep, meaningful, and loving communication model for couples.

Is the answer to a successful relationship found in your ability to surrender to love?

If it is, wow, that requires a lot of trust..

Obviously we’re willing to try because we are driven to couple up, yet connecting is extremely difficult.

According to relationship guru Maya Kollman:

“loving somebody, really loving somebody and surrendering to love forces us to face our deepest fears which are, ‘they’ll leave me or they’ll die.’”

Kollman says that love – that connection – is the key to our very survival as individuals.

She says we are really good at finding “the” partner who can fulfill us and help us actualize who we are.

Living with those same people, however, isn’t easy. Kollman points out, “This is where a respectful and appropriate communication strategy is required” – a strategy she insists exists.

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Maya Kollman – Surrender to Love from Conversations That Matter

Therapy friendship • intimacy • relationships January 6, 2017 By Robin 0 Comments

Psychology Today Article on Intimacy

I was reading my monthly subscription of “Psychology Today” and was very taken with an article on intimacy. The article was written by Lisa A. Phillips, who is a professor of journalism at SUNY New Paltz. The part that truly stood out to me was the following:

Becoming close to another person is one of the most thrilling experiences in the human repertoire, both the bedrock of emotional security and a passport to self-expansion.

If the relationship is a romantic one, intimacy is as much the essence of deep friendship as of lasting love. It carries the added charge of desire.

Although the term intimacy is often used as a euphemism for sex, anyone with a dear friend knows that physical attraction is not essential for any two people to create a true bond.

Intimacy is what you share with another human being who gets you.

The part that stood out to me the most was “self-expansion”. What that means to me is that my partner helps my process of growing into my authentic self. That through my partner, I can grow through whatever discomforts may arise. I, in turn can help them to grow as well.

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