Sex isn’t the same with many years of marriage behind us. It’s sad but true. No one ever shares this with us before we get married. Our parents don’t mention this. Unfortunately we find this out 5-10 years in. Men feel it first. They want more, we want less. What a dilemma! What to do? Instead of communicating in a way that we listen to one another, we end up very angry and saying unkind things to each other. If we learned better sending and receiving as we say in Imago language, we could do a whole lot better.