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Imago Relationship Therapy for Individuals Long Island, NY

The Huntington Relationship Center offers Imago Relationship Therapy for Individuals, Couples & Families in Long Island, New York

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC offers Imago relationship therapy for individuals.

Part of our problem is in how we may have been brought up. We don’t always know better, but when equipped with the right knowledge, we can break our learned behaviors and have a better quality of life through better relationships.

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

ABOUT ROBIN NEWMAN:

I am a licensed clinical social worker, Imago relationship therapist, as well as an adjunct professor at the Graduate School of Social Work at Adelphi University. I’m a contributing therapist to Ladies Home Journal Magazine, “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” and the online magazine “Parenting Special Needs, Relationship Rescue”.

I work with couples, families and individuals. I’m successful in guiding my patients through anxiety, depression, self-esteem challenges, addictions, and/or family conflicts.

The key for me is always in the patient who has the courage and openness to heal. We all have wounds that can hold us back from creating satisfying relationships. It is a privilege and a blessing to be invited into the lives of others and assist them in having a more productive and healed life.

Robin Newman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker Long Island therapists

Are therapists paid to agree with you?

Robin Newman, Imago relationship therapist: Are therapists paid to agree with you?

I often get the question if I ever ‘agree’ with my clients.

So, here’s my answer to that:

I will always agree with blatant injustice. But, I feel that if I agree completely, I’m letting the person off the hook of looking at what their duplicity is. What they are doing to participate in the relationship / situation that they are in?

If I just agree, then how am I helping them to see and to prevent the next ‘set up’ because I always say to people that things come in different disguises.

So if I just agree with you saying he / she is a jackass, etc. and then you get into a new relationship with someone else and you’re doing the same things again. How is that helping you?

I’m going to be more in the realm of saying, yeah, that wasn’t such a great thing that he / she did to you, but what did you to participate? What patterns are you following / stuck in? What kinds of people are you choosing to surround yourself with to find yourself still getting into these situations?

For more info. on counseling, contact Robin Newman, LCSW

Robin Newman, social worker & owner of the Huntington Relationship Center in Long Island, NY.

Robin Newman, LCSW-R, PC THE HUNTINGTON RELATIONSHIP CENTER

Imago Relationship Therapists – Individual, Couples & Family Counseling

148 East Main Street (Suite 102) Huntington, NY 11743 (631) 421-4701

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The Imago Dialogue for Couples

If you feel that your relationship is lacking intimacy, I highly encourage you to look into the Imago Dialogue. As an Imago Relationship Therapist, I help guide couples who struggle for re-connection to find their way, develop better communication skills, and fully be heard and understood. Once this happens, couples open up, their hearts open, and their relationships are revived with a new hope and feeling of intimacy with one another.

Effective communication is really the lubrication to your relationship. It matters to both partners to have the freedom and safety to express their concerns/resentments/issues and fully be heard.

The Imago Dialogue

In the Imago Dialogue, both partners agree to a basic ground rule: one person talks at a time.

There is one person who is speaking (aka sending) and another who is listening (aka receiving).

It’s when you’re in the role of Listener/Receiver that you will be doing the 3 steps of Imago Dialogue which are:

• Mirroring
• Validation
• Empathy

STEP 1: MIRROR

When your partner pauses, or perhaps when you have asked them to pause, you will repeat back exactly everything you heard them say. You will mirror without analyzing, critiquing, modifying or responding.

EXAMPLE: “If I got it right, I heard you say…” and then ask the Speaker/Sender if there’s more they’d like to add to what they said: “Is there anything else you want to add/say?”

STEP 2: VALIDATE

After giving the Sender as many opportunities to “add more” as needed, once the Sender says there is no more, the Receiver attempts to validate what the Sender said. The Sender will validate if what they are hearing back from you is making logical sense to them – if they feel you got the message. If the Sender feels that you didn’t understand what they’ve told you, you simply share what does make sense to you, and then ask the Sender to say more about the parts that don’t.

EXAMPLE: “This makes sense to me because…” or “That makes sense, I can see where…”

Ask for clarification:  “This part makes sense, but help me understand this, can you say more?”

STEP 3: EMPATHIZE

In the final step, the Receiver takes a guess as to what they imagine the Sender might be feeling with regard to what they have been saying. If the Sender has already said how they feel, then the Receiver can simply reflect this back once more. If the Receiver can think of an additional way their partner might be feeling, this is where they add that.

When sending empathy, it is fine to say something such as:  “I can imagine you feel like …. (you’re the only one working on our relationship).” However, it’s important to know that once the word “like” comes into play, what’s being expressed is a thought, not a feeling. The best way we have come to distinguish the difference between a thought and a feeling, is that a feeling can generally be described in a few words: happy, excited, safe, cared for, hurt, frustrated, scared. Try to include feeling words if you can. Doing so, especially when lucky enough to hit the proverbial nail on the head, will often bring a look of recognition and joy to your partner’s face faster than anything else you could say.

EXAMPLE:  “I can imagine you might be feeling drained from this…”

Now that the Sender has said all they have to say and the Receiver has mirrored, validated and empathized, the whole process reverses. Partners trade places, but the new Sender does not start a new topic, rather s/he responds to what the first Sender said. The Receiver now gets their turn to respond with whatever came up for them while the first partner was sending.

If you are interested in learning more about using Imago Dialogue for your relationship, contact Robin Newman, LCSW.

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Robin Newman, Senior Adjunct Faculty Member at the Adelphi School of Social Work

Robin Newman, LCSW in Huntington, NY is now a Senior Adjunct Faculty Member at the Adelphi School of Social Work. She continues educating Long Island students in social work and counseling.

Senior Adjunct Faculty Member at Adelphi University

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Irrational Beliefs Theory – The Becks Model – Underlying Schema

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Romantic Love Is Not An Illusion

Romantic Love Is Not An Illusion ~ Getting The Love You Want Sept. 2019 Workshop ~ Long Island, NY

Romantic love is not an illusion.

We’re our highest selves when we let go of defenses. We think the person who we’re falling in love with is “giving” us these feelings, but actually, it’s our body that is producing them. We are in love with feeling alive. We are in love with the experience of living with an open heart. We are in love with love! And we think it will never end. Who we are in romantic love is not an illusion, but who we really are when we let go of our defenses. We get in touch with the person we were always meant to be.

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT COUPLES WORKSHOPS

The New York Times bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love & companionship.

Is your relationship starving for affection, romance & passion?

Do you wish to deepen the relationship, the closeness & the intimacy that once made it so special?

Does it seem like you can’t stop the cycle of anger, blame, arguments & withdrawal?

Do you consistently feel unheard?

Do you wish you argued less & talked more?

Well, it’s time to make important changes in your relationship!

Discover what really lies beneath triggered reactions in romantic partnerships and how to make lasting change. Move into more conscious connection and have the relationship of your dreams.

Learn to effectively communicate, work through conflicts in a skilled way, and be genuinely affectionate with each other.

Long Island couples therapist - getting through hard times

For more info. on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman, LCSW today.

Robin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

(631) 421-4701

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Intentional Dialogue – Imago Relationship Therapy Explained

Intentional Dialogue – Imago Relationship Therapy Explained by Robin Newman, LCSW

Every couple starts off the same way with an intentional dialogue: Knee to Knee. Heart to Heart. Eye to Eye.

You must face each other during an important dialogue. It’s very important to check in. Ask if now is a good time to talk with your partner. And if it isn’t, make an appointment. Remember to speak in the “I” and not in the “You.” One topic should only be used. It shouldn’t be a laundry list of things that are going wrong. Below are the key steps with intentional dialogue.

MIRRORING

Once your partner is done speaking to you, you mirror back what they have said. This isn’t only good for the sender to hear, but it’s also good for the receiver, to make sure that they heard and comprehended the message as intended from the sender.

SUMMARY

The receiver then summarizes what their partner said.

VALIDATION

You don’t have to let go of what you believe to validate someone else’s feelings. You are two separate people. Understand what the validation does. Hearing that your partner “gets it.”

EMPATHY

Understand how that makes your partner feel. Step into their shoes for a second and really try to see it through their lens.

Then you two switch from being the sender to the receiver, and vice versa.

The truth of any situation sort of sits in the middle.. Feelings are not facts. So remember, clear communication is absolutely necessary to understand your partner’s feelings and thoughts.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

For more information on counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Intentional Dialogue - Long Island couples' therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

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(631) 421-4701

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couples workshop JAN 26 & 27, 2019

“Selective Abstraction”

Selective Abstraction – another cognitive error.

Licensed social worker, Robin Newman, LCSW, speaking about selective abstraction at her class at Adelphi University, Graduate School of Social Work

ONE DETAIL can get taken out of context between two people – the story goes south and becomes a total experience. Don’t let this small detail get in the way of the bigger picture!

We invite you to our Long Island couples workshop!

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT
LONG ISLAND COUPLES WORKSHOP

January 26 & 27, 2019
10-7:30 / 10-6:00

Spice Up Your Relationship & Reconnect With Your Partner

Make a good relationship better, heal a broken relationship, or prevent a new relationship from potential pitfalls. This workshop can make all the difference!

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

ABOUT ROBIN NEWMAN

couples therapist Long Island - Therapy for Better Mental Health

Couples Therapist Long Island

Robin Newman licensed clinical social worker Long Island, marriage counselor talks about empathy

ROBIN NEWMAN LCSW-R PC:

Advanced Certified IMAGO Relationship Therapist
Adjunct professor at Adelphi School of Social Work
Couples Therapist Long Island, New York

Robin provides counseling for couples of all kinds:  dating, married, separated, divorced, same sex

Rediscover the joy you once had.

Renew the vision for your relationship.

Restore the passion in your love life.

Robin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

TRANSFORMATION IS NEAR

·     Become passionate best friends again
·     Learn how to end the power struggles
·     Learn secrets to a satisfying relationship
·     Gain understanding and insight into each other
·     Experience compassion for yourself and your partner
·     Harness conflict and redirect to growth
·     Start the journey of healing
·     Rediscover the safety, the connection, the power of two!

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Common Communication Issues in Relationships
with Robin Newman, couples therapist Long Island

What clients are saying about couples therapist Robin Newman:

“Robin is a skilled and caring therapist. She truly believes in Imago relationship therapy and it shows. She is amazing, caring and intuitive while also being informative. I like the dialogue because it helps me to communicate more effectively with my partner. We thank you for helping us to love each other on a deeper level.”
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Donna M.

They want more, we want less. What a dilemma!

Sex isn’t the same with many years of marriage behind us. It’s sad but true. No one ever shares this with us before we get married. Our parents don’t mention this. Unfortunately we find this out 5-10 years in. Men feel it first. They want more, we want less. What a dilemma! What to do? Instead of communicating in a way that we listen to one another, we end up very angry and saying unkind things to each other. If we learned better sending and receiving as we say in Imago language, we could do a whole lot better.

Robin Newman on sex

The Beauty of Imago Relationship Therapy

The Beauty of Imago Relationship Therapy

Robin Newman, LCSW-R, PC

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Psychotherapist & Professor at Adelphi University, Graduate School of Social Work

Imago Relationship Therapy:

Imago is a type of relationship therapy which provides a unique opportunity for couples to learn how to use the issues that they have in their relationship for growth and healing. It offers communication tools that will allow both people to feel safe and connected as they talk about their problems, instead of entering the painful “power struggle”.

  • See through your partner’s eyes.
  • Understand the art of communication.
  • Learn better communication skills with one another.
  • Learn how to listen better.
  • Learn how to empathize and validate your partner.
  • 2 opinions can be right and exist in the same space.

The Beauty of Imago Relationship Therapy

Getting The Love You Want Workshops:

For couples who’ve been married for a long time, for people that are not married but living together, for people that are dating, and for people that are planning on getting married.

What the workshop involves are multiple exercises between each couple. This is not group therapy. Nothing is publicly shared.

Individual, Couples & Family Counseling

148 East Main Street (Suite 102) Huntington, NY 11743

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