Couples Therapy couples counselor Long Island • couples therapy Huntington • relationship therapist Long Island February 23, 2015 By Robin Newman 0 Comments

Fix My Partner

So many couples come into couples therapy with the attitude of “just fix my partner.”

They don’t look at how they participate in the dance of intimacy. Many will ask “what can I do to make this work?”

What sometimes troubles me are the few who are unwilling to do their homework when I assign it. The only way to make a relationship work, is to work at being conscious and doing what it takes to get there. We spend most of our relationship in unconsciousness state. One partner is talking while the other is occupied with something and they are not paying attention. A typical scenario is when the partner states “you never listen to me” the other will then state “I was busy doing something, what do you expect?” Disconnect.

INVEST IN YOUR LOVE

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.