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Intentional Dialogue

The Intentional Dialogue in Imago Relationship Therapy with Robin Newman, Therapist in Long Island

Tied Up In Knots…

Try to remember this the next time a fight has you tied up in knots.

The best argument has no winner, and nobody gets blamed.

For the best argument is a dialogue, an intentional dialogue, heated perhaps, needled sometimes with anger no doubt, difficult always, between two people whose positions on a given issue are passionately different.

That two people have different opinions about the same thing, is the measure of their uniqueness.

That they express their differences, is a measure of their courage.

That they are willing to listen to someone else’s position, is a measure of their maturity.

And that they are willing to arrive at a solution, is a measure of the strength of their relationship.

An argument is a forum for a passionate dialogue, not a battleground, or the occasion for a firing squad.

The winner of the truly successful argument is never an individual, but the relationship itself.

So much said in a simple amount of prose. When you think about it, it opens up the question of, what is the intentional dialogue in Imago? And how wonderful a tool to be able to use to talk things out, to understand that two opinions can exist in the same space and both are right. And to be able to see your partner’s / family member’s perception through their eyes. To really give them empathy and validation for those feelings.

This really talks about what the Intentional Dialogue in Imago Relationship Therapy is truly about.

Robin Newman, LCSW-R, PC

Imago Relationship Therapist – Individual, Couples & Family Counseling

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Your Relationship Issues Were There Before Covid

Your Relationship Issues Were There Before Covid with Robin Newman, LCSW in Long Island

So, one of the things that I am finding ‘post-covid’ now that things are opening up more is people coming in individually, not as a couple, to talk about the disillusionment of their relationship and how Covid has put their relationship over the top.

The first thing I say to them is, I need you to check in with yourself, because as much as I do understand that Covid has put your relationship over the top, I’m going to invite you to consider that these issues were all there before covid.

Being locked in with your significant other / wife / husband / girlfriend / boyfriend / partner is going to bring out the ugly stuff because there is no exit.

There’s some healthy exits and there are some unhealthy exits.

Unhealthy Exits:

  • Drinking Too Much
  • Working Too Much
  • Eating Too Much

Healthy Exits:

  • Creating Space For Yourself
  • Having A Balanced Life

I try to explain to people that maybe they need to look inward at what their accountability is in the relationship process and what’s happening. How they have fed into ‘the challenge’ that’s occurring in the relationship and we go from there.

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ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC Individual, Couples & Family Therapist
The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center 148 East Main Street Huntington, NY (631) 421-4701

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

Robin Newman, LCSW

ABOUT ROBIN NEWMAN: I am a licensed clinical social worker, Imago relationship therapist, as well as an adjunct professor at the Graduate School of Social Work at Adelphi University. I’m a contributing therapist to Ladies Home Journal Magazine, “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” and the online magazine “Parenting Special Needs, Relationship Rescue”.

I work with couples, families and individuals. I’m successful in guiding my patients through anxiety, depression, self-esteem challenges, addictions, and/or family conflicts. The key for me is always in the patient who has the courage and openness to heal. We all have wounds that can hold us back from creating satisfying relationships. It is a privilege and a blessing to be invited into the lives of others and assist them in having a more productive and healed life.

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Divorce Recovery Counseling

Divorce Recovery Counseling in Long Island, New York with the Huntington Relationship Center

Dealing with the grief of a broken marriage is a turbulent time where the very foundation of your life is being uprooted, finances are diminishing, social pressures abound, and everything feels completely disoriented.

Depression is a common side-effect and comes with the territory of losing your stability — even if the marriage was on rocky ground to begin with and even if you were the one to file the papers.

Like any breakup, it can take a long time to recover.

Since each individual and situation is different, there is no formula for how to move on from such a devastating experience. You should take as much time as you need, but here are a few suggestions that might help speed the recovery from your divorce.

Expressing your feelings in a safe and secure place can be a significant stress release.

Consider speaking with the Huntington Relationship Center about divorce recovery counseling. We can figure out a healthy way for you to cope with changes, and how to develop an exciting future for yourself.

Understand and appreciate you are part of a new world.

Open your eyes to new adventures and friends. You may find your interests change or you’ll have a desire to do something you never really thought about before. This is a time of self-exploration.

Allow yourself the time to grieve.

No matter how miserable or terrible your marriage ended or how bitter the divorce became, it is normal to feel a sense of loss once it’s done. Your ex-spouse was a big part of your life and it’s typical to feel remorse — even if you have spent the past several months or years already feeling it. This is a normal part of the breakup process.

If you are thinking of divorce or you are already divorced and looking for support, please reach out to the Huntington Relationship Center for more info. about counseling near you.

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Non-Verbal Communication in Relationships

Non-verbal communication is the messages we send to others that don’t include words. We can tell a lot about how a person feels, if they’re being genuine with us, or what kind of mood someone is in without them saying anything about it to us. Just the ‘vibe’ someone displays says a thousand words.

Making and maintaining eye contact, facial expressions, and bodily gestures are all examples of nonverbal communication.

Our non-verbal communication that we display to our partner is imperative to pay attention to. For example, if a loved one is coming to you with an issue, how you non-verbally listen and respond can change the dynamics between you from a moment of defense & arguing to a moment of clarity & progression.

No marriage or relationship is free from disagreements. However, you can prevent a disagreement from turning into a full blown out argument with good communication, both verbally and non-verbally. Nonverbal communication actually plays an essential role in verbal communication.

Here’s a checklist to see if you are projecting any negativity into your relationship:

  1. Am I rolling my eyes?
  2. Do I have my arms crossed?
  3. Am I looking at my phone?
  4. Am I condescending?
  5. Do I sound like a know-it-all?
We all can evaluate what we project into the world through our actions and words.

If you want a new reaction from your partner, try a new action yourself. Take on a different stance; see how the dynamics between you change.

Or the next time you’re in public, smile towards a stranger and mean it! See how your non-verbal communication changes the things around you.

In marriage and relationships, we need to understand that nonverbal communication plays a huge role in feelings of security, as well as creating a feeling of connection and affection.

If you are interested in learning more about counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

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Attachment Styles in Relationships

Have you ever evaluated the attachment styles in your relationships; whether intimate, friendly or career-based? When we recognize the roles that we play in relationships, we become more aware of our habits & behavior patterns. With this awareness, comes the possibility for change within ourselves and an improved sense of well-being in our relationships.

In Imago Relationship Therapy, there’s a dynamic that is seen in most relationships described as, “The Octopus & The Turtle.”

The Octopus is the person who reaches toward the other for connection during a fight.
The Turtle is the person who withdraws by either shutting down or leaving the room.

Our attachment styles are developed in early childhood. But despite this fact, even if one person was more of a turtle in another relationship, it can change; any person with a desire to change, can.

Remember, who we choose as our partner powerfully affects our ability to thrive in the world.

When you learn about your own attachment styles, and your partner’s, you can then be clear about your needs in a relationship and what makes you happy. This is an important step towards relationship success.

Are you a turtle or an octopus when it comes to love?

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Robin Newman LCSW

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.

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“This review could literally be 10 pages long: one page for every year that I have known her both professionally and personally…

Professionally, Robin is top notch. I find her to be an open-minded, straight-talking, no BS, problem solving, truth warrior. She will be the most sensitive, caring, concerned, human being you will find, and treat you as if you were from her own family.

But, be warned! If you are not ready to hear hard truths, have someone eloquently ask you to look in the mirror and be held accountable for your own actions and in pursuit of meaningful change to improve your life – or you would rather have some A-typical, battery operated, drone of a hollow, empty, damaged “therapist” ask you, “So, how does that make YOU feel,” you are going to the wrong office.

She is a sharp, quick witted, hard core, battle tested, successful entrepreneur, athlete, and professional wellness expert that will sit you down and craft a success strategy out of your current challenges and you will move forward with reckless abandon, strength, confidence, self-assuredness, and most importantly, centered in your unique place of personal peace and tranquility.

Personally, I have seldom found someone more interested in listening to my every word and allowing me to vent out my frustrations without judgment. She is not only a trusted colleague in my professional practices but a dependable friend when the chips have been down. Few will raise their voice when the time comes for mistruths, slander, and gossip to be called out. But, if Robin is your friend, rest assured she will not back down from someone who thinks they can, without witness, take your name in vain!

She will be your guardian angel. She walks in light. She will be your best friend, your most trusted professional, and will feel like your pseudo mother, sister, aunt, or wife. If you need help, by the grace of God, your prayers have been answered and Robin delivered unto you.

Be at peace knowing that she is in your corner. There will never be a question of that. As sure as the sun rises in the east, Robin will be your best advocate and cheerleader for a life worth living.”

– Testimonial about Robin Newman left by Phil S.

Prayer for Gratitude with Robin Newman
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Prayer for Gratitude during Coronavirus

I found something that is very touching that I’d thought I would share with you in order to help you get through today. It’s a prayer for gratitude. Also, after I read this, I’m going to share ways to keep yourself from getting less anxious.

If you find that you are getting very anxious during these times, the best thing for you to do is provide some structure to your day. As I’ve said to a few patients that I’ve seen virtually lately, getting out of the bed in the morning and putting the TV on right away is not a good thing to do. It’s really important to get up, maybe do a meditation, maybe pray for gratitude, make a gratitude journal for the things you are grateful for this time when you are at home. Then start your day after writing in a gratitude journal to taking a walk outside or some kind of exercise. But really, limit your TV intake to 15-20 minutes of news a day. Save entertainment for later in the day. Try to find little projects to do because we’re strapped in for the long haul right now, and it’s going to get worse before it gets better.

Just know that you are strong and you can do this.

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Due to the current status of things here on Long Island, Robin Newman, LCSW, is offering virtual therapy sessions until we’re all able to see one another again face to face. For more information, contact Robin today.

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Stress Counseling with LCSW Robin Newman

We all know (in our rational / prefrontal brain) that stress isn’t a good thing in anxiety, but yet we still do it, right? We still feel it..

So it’s going into that second place and saying, okay, I know it’s not good, so maybe I need to try looking at it from this perspective in order to reframe it so that it benefits me. Instead of sitting in the victim, because that’s a crappy place to be. It doesn’t work.

So many of our patients / clients come to see us who are in that place. They just feel like they’ve lost control, that they’re powerless, and they don’t know what to do.

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“My mission is to create a new way to love and to transform the world, one relationship at a time. I am committed to using Imago theory and practices to help all interested people create and sustain mutually fulfilling, healing relationships.”

Stress Counseling with LCSW Robin Newman

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Long Island Couples Workshop September 2018

Long Island Couples Workshop September 2018

Reconnect With Your Partner

Make a good relationship better, heal a broken relationship, or prevent a new relationship from potential pitfalls. This workshop can make all the difference.

Imago based workshop – discover what really lies beneath triggered reactions in romantic partnerships and how to make lasting change. Move into more conscious connection and have the relationship of your dreams.

Rediscover the joy you once had in your relationship. Renew the vision for your relationship and restore the passion in your love life!

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street #102 Huntington, NY 11743

10-7:30 / 10-6:00

Breakfast, refreshments & snacks included.
Limited space for 5 couples.
$545.00 per couple.

Long Island Couples Workshop September 2018

Contact us today to register (631) 421-4701.

Robin Newman LCSW-R PC

“We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.”

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Your Relationship Issues Were There Before Covid

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