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Our Throw Away Society

couples therapist LINYIn my opinion, we live in a throw away society. If something is broken, nowadays we go out and try buying a new one to replace the old one. We don’t want to spend the time fixing anything in order to make it work more effectively. Or, if we do try to fix something it’s typically a car and that we may decide to spend hundreds of dollars on. A relationship?? No investment. Why? Because it needs to take time and patience in order to see the payoffs. The way society thinks is that if we have a conflict in a relationship than we are probably with the wrong person. That way of thinking is based on our society’s concept of instant gratification. As opposed to if we have conflict, lets look at our accountability and how we can grow within the relationship and the conflict. There is a saying that it “takes two to tango”.

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Fix My Partner

couples therapy LINY - fix my partnerSo many couples come into couples therapy with the attitude of “just fix my partner.”

They don’t look at how they participate in the dance of intimacy. Many will ask “what can I do to make this work?”

What sometimes troubles me are the few who are unwilling to do their homework when I assign it. The only way to make a relationship work, is to work at being conscious and doing what it takes to get there. We spend most of our relationship in unconsciousness state. One partner is talking while the other is occupied with something and they are not paying attention. A typical scenario is when the partner states “you never listen to me” the other will then state “I was busy doing something, what do you expect?” Disconnect.

INVEST IN YOUR LOVE

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.

For more info. on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

TherapistLongIsland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

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INVEST IN YOUR LOVE

What many couples don’t realize is that divorce is very expensive. If money is spent on good couples therapy, it actually is more cost effective.

That’s what I love about Imago Relationship Therapy – it gets right to the heart of the matter.

I think the thing that saddens me the most is when a couple tells me over the phone, after they’ve made the inquiry, that they don’t feel like working on their marriage once we discuss the length of time and typical investment. What I want to say to them is “good luck in divorce court and losing your money”. It’s much more satisfying to invest in your love and repair what is truly special to you.

What I wish I could help couples understand is that the divorce process can be so much longer, bitter and more costly… not to mention upsetting.

INVEST IN YOUR LOVE

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

TherapistLongIsland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

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