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Our partners think & love differently from us - NY Couples Workshops - Getting The Love You Want

Our partners think & love differently from us

Not Like You: our partners think & love differently from us – NY Couples Workshop – Getting The Love You Want

 

Not like you. The person you love won’t look at love or your relationship in exactly the same way that you do. He or she may have very different feelings about how it should be conducted, how you should argue, how and when to make love, even what your relationship means. For your darling, the most important thing about loving you may be that you’re there every day, every night for them to come home to. While for you, the specific kinds of attention you receive: sweet words and flowers, or anniversary presents may mean more than anything else.

You may handle crises in totally different ways. He may go to the gym to work out or you may talk on the phone for hours with your best friend. Understanding that your beloved may not feel the same way and in some sense may not even occupy sometimes, the same relationship as you do, is one of the greatest opportunities for growth in any intimate relationship.

I chose this for a reason because in Imago, we always say that two perceptions, two opinions can exist in the same space. Both are right. As a couple, you are not symbiotic. You are connected, but you do not finish and stop each other’s sentences thinking the same exact way. You may at times be on the same wavelength, but your partner is their own person, as are you.

If you’re struggling figuring out where you are in your relationship, trying to be heard, trying to get validated, trying to learn how to validate, trying to see how our partners think & love differently from us, please attend one of our workshops Getting The Love You Want.

GTLYW Workshop Feb 21 & 22, 2020

Are we really drawn to partners like our parents?

Couples Workshop February 2020: Are we really drawn to partners like our parents?

Our parents’ business: No person is without a history or context. We are all living out untold, unfinished emotional legacies passed down to us by our parents as conscious discovering individuals. We must live our way through all the things they have not resolved until having come to the place where we have transformed their tragedies and our childhoods. We can finally emerge as ourselves. How do we emerge as ourselves?

Drawn to partners like our parents.

Typically, we are drawn to people that remind us unconsciously of our caregivers. So in a way, we’re trying to push forward to connect with some sort of resolution of whatever it is that hurt us. What is your mother’s unresolved problem? What is your father’s unresolved issue? How have you taken on their unfinished business?

Give your parents’ problems back to them by looking into your future and focusing on what you need to accomplish in your own life.

It’s not your parents’ fault that they did to you what their parents did to them. We always say that in Imago Relationship Therapy. Your parents did the best job they could. But how do we stop ourselves from recreating fractures in relationships that they may have had with one another?

And with this, we’d like to invite you to our next workshop – Getting The Love You Want is like a relationship boot camp for two days. Here is where you learn to see yourself and your partner in a true light and new perspective. Learn to communicate effectively and transform your relationship into a powerful connection with one another.

Don and I very excited to be holding the next Getting The Love You Want couples workshop in Melville, NY on February 21st & 22nd.

Invest In Your Love

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.

For more info. on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapist: drawn to partners like our parentsRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

TherapistLongIsland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

Couples Workshop Feb 21 & 22, 2020

Couples Workshops for 2020

Couples Workshops for 2020: February 21 & 22, March 21 & 22, April 18 & 19, May 16 & 17

 

Love is the crucible, the un-meltable, changeless container in which we’re tested by fire, melted down, and transformed. In love, we are formed and reformed by the white heat of unexpected re-visitation of all the things in us that cry out to be healed, most of which is our shame and hurt, our fears, our insecurities, our conflicts and our endless inner controversies. Through our beloved, our partner, we are once again brought face to face with what is unresolved in us. We meet again our father’s absence or our brother’s envy, our mother’s cruelty or our sister’s competition. We see our own childhoods mirrored in every direction in all of our relationships. Through love, we are invited to reenter them again but differently. To re-experience and grieve the losses of the past and thus to redeem and heal now.

Hello, I’m Robin Newman and I’m a certified Imago relationship therapist. I’m an LCSW and an adjunct professor at the Adelphi school of social work. I hold, with my husband, Getting The Love You Want workshops on Long Island. I’m very, very happy to announce that we have our dates up for 2020 and those dates are:

  • February 21st & 22nd
  • March 21st & 22nd
  • April 18th & 19th
  • May 16th & 17th

If you are looking to work on your relationship, or if any part of this reading resonated with you, consider attending our next couples workshop. Click here to purchase February 2020 tickets.

Couples Workshops for 2020 – Invest in Your Love

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.

For more info. on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapist - Couples Workshops for 2020Robin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

TherapistLongIsland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

Couples Workshop Long Island Feb 21 & 22, 2020

NY Couples Workshop for February 2020

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT

The New York Times bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love & companionship.

February 21 & 22, 2020

Sat & Sun, 9:30-7:00 PM

575 Broadhollow Rd Melville, NY

Is your relationship starving for affection, romance and/or passion?

Do you wish to deepen the relationship, the closeness, and the intimacy that once made it so special?

Does it seem like you can’t stop the cycle of anger, blame, arguments, and withdrawal?

Do you consistently feel unheard?

When any of this occurs, it’s time to make important changes in your relationship.

A change where the two of you are able to effectively communicate, work through conflicts in a skilled way, and be genuinely affectionate with each other.

Your relationship is much more likely to be a long, happy one if you and your partner both make an active effort to communicate, both well and often.

Don’t miss our next NY Couples Workshop February 2020! If you are struggling to find clarity and connection with your partner, this workshop will give you the tools to succeed.

Couples Workshop Long Island Feb 21 & 22, 2020
Robin Newman, LCSW, and her husband Don will guide you and your partner to deeper levels of connection using Imago Relationship Therapy, an approach that allows you to experience new levels of safety and appreciation. Restoring passion and hope to your relationship, Imago brings you healing and spiritual growth.

If you want to learn the tools to long-term relationship success, attend our weekend workshop February 21 & 22, 2020 or contact Robin Newman, for information on couples counseling:

(631) 421-4701

$ 695.00 per couple. Limited space.

Breakfast, refreshments & snacks included.

** This workshop is designed for married & single couples of all gender & sexual orientations.

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GTLYW couples workshop – Power Tactics

Power Tactics in Relationships

As the drugs which flooded our brains disappear, we see something in our partner that scares us.. It’s like the Wizard of Oz where Dorothy pulls back the curtain. The curtain is pulled back and we experience shock and denial. We bargain and we get angry. That is grief running through us. We begin to lose that loving feeling. We feel like something is dying inside of us. When we’re angry that our partner has changed (according to us), we resort to power tactics.

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT couples workshops

This was from our workshop this past September in Long Island.

Find the next couples workshop dates we will be hosting here.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

INVEST IN YOUR LOVE

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.

For more info. on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

TherapistLongIsland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

Couples Workshops for 2020

The Conscious Relationship

A conscious relationship is an intentional decision requiring the courage to commit and believe that within the power struggles of a relationship, lies the gold.

Putting the pieces together: ask for an appointment with your partner when you need to talk about something important:

“Do you have the time to talk?”
“Is now a good time to talk?”

The point to a conscious relationship is not expecting your partner to know what you need. It’s asking for what you need in a loving way.

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT COUPLES WORKSHOPS

Find the next couples workshop dates we will be hosting here.

In a conscious relationship, the focus is growth – physically, mentally and spiritually. You have to let go of your concept of a comfort zone. People think that a relationship is supposed to be easy all the time, so at the first sign of trouble, they automatically assume something is terribly wrong. It’s normal to have conflict. It’s really how you deal with the conflict.

Robin Newman, LCSW-R, PC - conscious relationshipROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC

Couples, Individual & Family Therapist – Long Island, NY

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Robin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

The Relationship Vision

The Relationship Vision

We have an exercise called the relationship vision. It is a deliberate and conscious process that helps us explore what we really want from a relationship.

Companies have vision statements to articulate their values, define their goals, and give employees direction. Relationships need them as well. What’s interesting about this exercise is that it can be morphed into anything such as vacations, finances, raising children, family planning, etc.

What the relationship vision looks like is both partners write out their vision of what they’d like to see happening, in a positive manner, as an affirmation. The other partner then does the same thing. You then incorporate the intentional dialogue with these two visions, so that it’s mirrored, summarized, validated, and empathized with.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

Imago Relationship Therapist Long Island

Intentional Dialogue – Imago Relationship Therapy Explained

Intentional Dialogue – Imago Relationship Therapy Explained by Robin Newman, LCSW

Every couple starts off the same way with an intentional dialogue: Knee to Knee. Heart to Heart. Eye to Eye.

You must face each other during an important dialogue. It’s very important to check in. Ask if now is a good time to talk with your partner. And if it isn’t, make an appointment. Remember to speak in the “I” and not in the “You.” One topic should only be used. It shouldn’t be a laundry list of things that are going wrong. Below are the key steps with intentional dialogue.

MIRRORING

Once your partner is done speaking to you, you mirror back what they have said. This isn’t only good for the sender to hear, but it’s also good for the receiver, to make sure that they heard and comprehended the message as intended from the sender.

SUMMARY

The receiver then summarizes what their partner said.

VALIDATION

You don’t have to let go of what you believe to validate someone else’s feelings. You are two separate people. Understand what the validation does. Hearing that your partner “gets it.”

EMPATHY

Understand how that makes your partner feel. Step into their shoes for a second and really try to see it through their lens.

Then you two switch from being the sender to the receiver, and vice versa.

The truth of any situation sort of sits in the middle.. Feelings are not facts. So remember, clear communication is absolutely necessary to understand your partner’s feelings and thoughts.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

For more information on counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Intentional Dialogue - Long Island couples' therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

GTLYW couples workshops

How do the GTLYW couples workshops work?

Our Long Island GTLYW couples workshops are two days. You are given workbooks with exercises and a lot of psycho-educational material than Don and I teach you, and then once we teach you the exercises, we have you break off with your partner and go and work in a space and do the exercises together while we walk around  and check in to see if you need assistance. So everything is very private and is only discussed between you and your partner.

Conflict is growth waiting to happen.

Stand in it and allow yourself to work from it, and grow with your partner.

Learn better communication skills with one another.

Learn how to empathize and validate your partner.

Relationship counseling and support for couples: It doesn’t matter if you’re married, living together, single, gay, bi, straight or transgender – we’re here to help you.

Couples therapist and counselor Robin Newman explains that most feelings of receiving inadequate love come from unresolved childhood conflicts.

Use relationship challenges to create growth and healing. Most importantly, to create the relationship that you have always wanted. When 2 people understand that there is a “space between” each other and learn how to care for one another in deeper ways, their relationship will dramatically improve as well as the quality of their lives.

For more information on GTLYW couples workshops, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

counseling for pregnant couples

Counseling for Pregnant Couples ~ Long Island, NY

As human beings, you fall in love, and a big part of falling in love is having children together. Quite a few couples are like that. Then, we overlook problems. We know the problem exists, but our “human-ness” says, “well, maybe a child will fix this.” So, a lot of couples that are pregnant who are having issues – the problem was there before the pregnancy, and now that there’s a pregnancy, it is just 10 times worse. Because the pregnancy, as much as it was well-intentioned, it’s just amplifying the problem that existed before.

Counseling for Pregnant Couples ~ Long Island, NY

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

She offers counseling for pregnant couples in her office in Huntington, New York, on the north shore of Long Island. She will provide you with tools to deal with this wonderful experience the most healthy and happy way possible.

If you want to learn the tools to long-term relationship success in a bootcamp-style workshop, you can also attend our couples’ weekend workshop called GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT.

Call Robin today for more info: (631) 421-4701.

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

Our partners think & love differently from us - NY Couples Workshops - Getting The Love You Want

Our partners think & love differently from us

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GTLYW Workshop Feb 21 & 22, 2020

Are we really drawn to partners like our parents?

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Couples Workshops for 2020

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