Category: Couples Therapy

The Relationship Vision

The Relationship Vision

We have an exercise called the relationship vision. It is a deliberate and conscious process that helps us explore what we really want from a relationship.

Companies have vision statements to articulate their values, define their goals, and give employees direction. Relationships need them as well. What’s interesting about this exercise is that it can be morphed into anything such as vacations, finances, raising children, family planning, etc.

What the relationship vision looks like is both partners write out their vision of what they’d like to see happening, in a positive manner, as an affirmation. The other partner then does the same thing. You then incorporate the intentional dialogue with these two visions, so that it’s mirrored, summarized, validated, and empathized with.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

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Intentional Dialogue – Imago Relationship Therapy Explained

Intentional Dialogue – Imago Relationship Therapy Explained by Robin Newman, LCSW

Every couple starts off the same way with an intentional dialogue: Knee to Knee. Heart to Heart. Eye to Eye.

You must face each other during an important dialogue. It’s very important to check in. Ask if now is a good time to talk with your partner. And if it isn’t, make an appointment. Remember to speak in the “I” and not in the “You.” One topic should only be used. It shouldn’t be a laundry list of things that are going wrong. Below are the key steps with intentional dialogue.

MIRRORING

Once your partner is done speaking to you, you mirror back what they have said. This isn’t only good for the sender to hear, but it’s also good for the receiver, to make sure that they heard and comprehended the message as intended from the sender.

SUMMARY

The receiver then summarizes what their partner said.

VALIDATION

You don’t have to let go of what you believe to validate someone else’s feelings. You are two separate people. Understand what the validation does. Hearing that your partner “gets it.”

EMPATHY

Understand how that makes your partner feel. Step into their shoes for a second and really try to see it through their lens.

Then you two switch from being the sender to the receiver, and vice versa.

The truth of any situation sort of sits in the middle.. Feelings are not facts. So remember, clear communication is absolutely necessary to understand your partner’s feelings and thoughts.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

For more information on counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Intentional Dialogue - Long Island couples' therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

GTLYW couples workshops

How do the GTLYW couples workshops work?

Our GTLYW couples workshops are two days. You’re given workbooks with exercises and a lot of the psycho-educational material than Don and I teach you, and then once we teach you the exercises, we have you break off with your partner and go and work in a space and do the exercises together while we walk around the room and check in to see if you need assistance. So everything is very private and is between you and your partner.

Conflict is growth waiting to happen. Stand in it and allow ourselves to work from it, to grow from it with our partner.

Learn better communication skills with one another.

Learn how to empathize and validate your partner.

Relationship counseling and support for couples: It doesn’t matter if you’re married, living together, single, gay, bi, straight or transgender – we’re here to help you.

For more information on GTLYW couples workshops, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

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Counseling for Pregnant Couples ~ Long Island, NY

As human beings, you fall in love, and a big part of falling in love is having children together. Quite a few couples are like that. Then, we overlook problems. We know the problem exists, but our “human-ness” says, “well, maybe a child will fix this.” So, a lot of couples that are pregnant who are having issues – the problem was there before the pregnancy, and now that there’s a pregnancy, it is just 10 times worse. Because the pregnancy, as much as it was well-intentioned, it’s just amplifying the problem that existed before.

Counseling for Pregnant Couples ~ Long Island, NY

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

She offers counseling for pregnant couples in her office in Huntington, New York, on the north shore of Long Island. She will provide you with tools to deal with this wonderful experience the most healthy and happy way possible.

If you want to learn the tools to long-term relationship success in a bootcamp-style workshop, you can also attend our couples’ weekend workshop called GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT.

Call Robin today for more info: (631) 421-4701.

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couples therapist Long Island - problems I see with most couples

Common problems I see with most couples:

As a couples’ therapist, what kinds of problems I see with most couples?

– Lack of quality communication
– Infidelity
– Working too much
– Watching too much sports
– Not letting each other finish sentences
– Not letting each other say how they feel

If you’re having issues with communication in your relationship, contact Robin Newman, LCSW, for more information on couples therapy or attending our next couples’ boot camp on Long Island.

Find the next Long Island couples workshop dates here.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743

“With the problems I see with most couples, my approach is oriented not only towards solving the problem the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

Spice Up Your Relationship & Reconnect With Your Partner

·     Become passionate best friends again
·     Learn how to end the power struggles
·     Harness conflict and redirect to growth
·     Gain understanding and insight into each other
·     Experience compassion for yourself and your partner
·     Start the journey of healing

Robin will guide you and your partner to deeper levels of connection using Imago Relationship Therapy, a transformational approach that allows you to experience new levels of safety and appreciation. Restoring passion and hope to your relationship, Imago brings you healing, wholeness, and spiritual growth.

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT workshops are for all sexual orientations

Getting The Love You Want workshops are for all sexual orientations

Are the GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT workshops for heterosexual couples only? Simply put, no. This workshop is designed for married and single couples of all gender and sexual orientations.

SAT & SUN, SEPTEMBER 21 & 22, 2019, 9:30-7:00 PM

Become the most connected couple you know with this Long Island weekend workshop to help you & your partner enhance closeness, communicate better, and experience a deeply fulfilling & lasting relationship.

To register for our GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT workshops, contact Robin Newman:
(631) 421-4701
therapistlongisland@gmail.com

Your relationship is much more likely to be a long, happy one if you and your partner both make an active effort to communicate, both well and often.

Don’t miss it! If you are struggling to find clarity and connection with your partner, this workshop will give you the tools to succeed. This is a 100% supportive space.

Get professional counseling from a licensed therapist in this boot camp couples therapy workshop!

Long Island couples therapist - GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT workshopsRobin Newman, LCSW-R, PC
Imago Relationship Therapist
Individual, Couples & Family Counseling

HUNTINGTON RELATIONSHIP THERAPY

148 East Main Street (Suite 102) Huntington, NY 11743
631-421-4701

Discover what really lies beneath triggered reactions in romantic partnerships and how to make lasting change. Move into more conscious connection and have the relationship of your dreams.

do you have to be married to take GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT workshops

You DON’T have to be married to attend GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT

Robin Newman:

  • You DON’T have to be married.
  • You can be living together or not living together.
  • A lot of couples use this as a premarital workshop.

The GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT workshops are designed for married and single couples of all gender and sexual orientations.

You DON’T have to be married to attend GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT.

To attend Getting The Love You Want this September 21 & 22, 2019, contact Robin Newman:
(631) 421-4701  /  therapistlongisland@gmail.com

Rediscover the joy you once had in your relationship.
Renew the vision for your relationship.
Restore the passion in your love life.

Become the most connected couple you know at this Long Island weekend workshop to help you & your partner enhance closeness, communicate better, and experience a deeply fulfilling & lasting relationship.

SAT & SUN, SEPTEMBER 21 & 22, 2019, 9:30-7:00 PM
575 Broadhollow Road Melville, NY 11747  (MAKE IT A GETAWAY: located across the street from Hilton hotel.) Breakfast, refreshments & snacks included.

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT - a guide for couplesThe New York Times Bestselling Guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship.

Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of people experience more satisfying relationships and is recommended by professional therapists and happy couples around the world.

TRANSFORMATION IS NEAR

·     Become passionate best friends again.
·     Learn how to end the power struggles.
·     Harness conflict and redirect to growth.
·     Start the journey of healing.

Imago is a type of relationship therapy which provides a unique opportunity for couples to learn how to use the issues that they have in their relationship for growth and healing. It offers communication tools that will allow both people to feel safe and connected as they talk about their problems, instead of entering the painful “power struggle”.

marrying partners like our parents

Is there any truth to dating / marrying partners like our parents?

Is there any truth to dating / marrying partners like our parents?

Because of what happens growing up, we have unmet needs, lost parts, protective behaviors – I call it our “baggage”.

Going through our childhood into our adult life, we bring all those aspects of ourselves into our relationships. If there was a certain piece that wasn’t met during childhood, we want to try to resolve that somehow as adults. We’re attracted to somebody that has those characteristics – both negative and positive, that we subconsciously need. They trigger things for us, and it’s in those moments that we can see what we must push past and grow from. You’re never going to find a perfect partner. We always think that once conflict happens, we bolt. Really, conflict is growth waiting to happen. That is a huge thing in relationships.

So, does dating / marrying partners like our parents likely happen? Yes, yes it does.

As human beings, we are drawn on an unconscious level toward the familiar. For a someone whose parental connections taught her that people are loving, dependable, and trustworthy, she will likely be attracted to someone similar. But for those who had insecure feelings in childhood, the familiar for them can be dangerous territory.

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapist - marrying partners like our parentsRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

confidential weekend couples workshops Long Island

Confidential Weekend Couples Workshops Long Island

100% CONFIDENTIAL WEEKEND COUPLES WORKSHOPS: Everything that goes on in our workshops are confidential. There are no comparisons between couples whatsoever.

Confidential Weekend Couples Workshops Long Island

Become the most connected couple you know with our Long Island weekend workshops to help you & your partner enhance closeness, communicate better, and experience a deeply fulfilling & lasting relationship.

Our next workshop will be held:

SAT & SUN, SEPTEMBER 21 & 22, 2019

575 Broadhollow Road Melville, NY 11747
(MAKE IT A GETAWAY: located across the street from Hilton hotel.)

Get professional counseling from a licensed therapist in this boot camp weekend couples workshop!

Couples who last long-term know that having healthy communication habits is the ultimate key to success — and even if they communicate well already, they’re always striving to improve their connection.

Don’t miss it – If you are struggling to find clarity and connection with your partner, this workshop will give you the tools to succeed. This is a 100% supportive and confidential space. Leave your judgement at the door and let’s get to work!

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

< Watch Robin Newman on YouTube >

The Art of Communication

Common Communication Issues in Relationships

The big challenge for couples is to try to understand that…

  1. You’re not symbiotic.
  2. You came into this relationship as two individuals.
  3. Both of your opinions/perspectives can exist in the same space (and believe it or not, both are right).

The Art of Communication

Different opinions are not right or wrong – it’s just allowing your partner to exist in the same space as you. They don’t have to think exactly like you. Your way is not the right way, but just simply, your way.

Learning how to communicate effectively in a relationship can drastically improve your love life, no matter how long you’ve been together, but sometimes that can feel like a big, overwhelming task. Learning the art of communication can really save what could be a healthy, thriving, relationship.

Attend our boot camp-style couples workshop to learn effective strategies to communicating better!

Open, honest communication is important in a healthy relationship. Learn how you and your partner can communicate better in this couples workshop hosted by Robin Newman and her husband Don.

Find the next workshop dates my husband and I will be hosting here.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743
(631) 421-4701

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