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Your daily habits define relationship longevity.
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Your daily habits define relationship longevity.

​You are what you do daily… so make good habits for yourself and your relationship!

“The happiness of most people is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things.”
– Ernest Dimnet

Gratitude

Your daily habits with the person you love will define the overall health of the relationship. So, show some appreciation! Showing gratitude for your partner is an important way to boost satisfaction. Couples who feel (and express) gratitude daily for one another feel closer, and tend to be more satisfied in their relationship.

Gratitude makes us feel happier and more secure with our partners. So the next time you think it doesn’t matter if you say, “thank you” for something your partner did, think again. Consider the negative feelings we all tend to feel if we notice a lack of appreciation from our partners over time. Everyone likes to hear positive reinforcement, and it shouldn’t matter if you’ve known your partner for 6 months or 25 years. It’s about the daily habits that you create with one another.

Attention

Becoming complacent is a common obstacle couples face. Some couples find that once they get used to each other, they stop putting in as much effort as they once did. It’s important to stay mindful of whether or not your partner is getting the time / attention they deserve.

Carving out time to enjoy each other is a foundational element of a relationship’s longevity. This will look different for each couple but things like playing / having fun together, creating meaningful moments, or supporting each other’s hobbies are all ways to make time for your relationship.

Affection

It goes without saying that love should be a part of any healthy romantic relationship. But more subtle than love is the expression of it in the form of affection and genuine interest. Do you actually like your partner? Small gestures of affection (hugs, kisses, comforting touch, sweet words, etc.) can go a long way to keeping each person feeling secure, wanted and appreciated.

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relationship issues
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Your Relationship Issues Were There Before Covid

Your Relationship Issues Were There Before Covid with Robin Newman, LCSW in Long Island

So, one of the things that I am finding ‘post-covid’ now that things are opening up more is people coming in individually, not as a couple, to talk about the disillusionment of their relationship and how Covid has put their relationship over the top.

The first thing I say to them is, I need you to check in with yourself, because as much as I do understand that Covid has put your relationship over the top, I’m going to invite you to consider that these issues were all there before covid.

Being locked in with your significant other / wife / husband / girlfriend / boyfriend / partner is going to bring out the ugly stuff because there is no exit.

There’s some healthy exits and there are some unhealthy exits.

Unhealthy Exits:

  • Drinking Too Much
  • Working Too Much
  • Eating Too Much

Healthy Exits:

  • Creating Space For Yourself
  • Having A Balanced Life

I try to explain to people that maybe they need to look inward at what their accountability is in the relationship process and what’s happening. How they have fed into ‘the challenge’ that’s occurring in the relationship and we go from there.

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ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC Individual, Couples & Family Therapist
The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center 148 East Main Street Huntington, NY (631) 421-4701

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

Robin Newman, LCSW

ABOUT ROBIN NEWMAN: I am a licensed clinical social worker, Imago relationship therapist, as well as an adjunct professor at the Graduate School of Social Work at Adelphi University. I’m a contributing therapist to Ladies Home Journal Magazine, “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” and the online magazine “Parenting Special Needs, Relationship Rescue”.

I work with couples, families and individuals. I’m successful in guiding my patients through anxiety, depression, self-esteem challenges, addictions, and/or family conflicts. The key for me is always in the patient who has the courage and openness to heal. We all have wounds that can hold us back from creating satisfying relationships. It is a privilege and a blessing to be invited into the lives of others and assist them in having a more productive and healed life.

Imago Relationship Therapy founders
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Marriage (even for marriage experts) is never easy.

Imago therapy is a highly effective form of relationship and couples therapy that has positively affected thousands of couples around the world. This transformational method of therapy was developed 25 years ago by Dr. Harville Hendrix & Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, and provides resources for couples & individuals seeking to find a way to be more effective in their life and relationships.

Just like any other couple, Harville & Helen experienced a power struggle where they attempted to change each other to be “more like me.”

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT - a guide for couples

A critical comment would degenerate into loud arguments.

Blaming each other was a common focus of conversation.

After a decade of marriage, they found themselves teetering on the brink of divorce. They started to lose hope that their relationship would survive.

Facing the inevitable, they decided to give one last try and commit to doing everything possible to salvage their relationship.

Harville & Helen co-created Imago Relationship Therapy to promote the transformation of couples & families by a creating relational culture that supports universal equality and effective communication.

It offers communication tools that will allow both people to feel safe & connected as they talk about their problems, instead of entering the painful “power struggle”.

Invest In Your Love

A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.

For info. on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman, LCSW today.

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intimacy - The Relationship Vision
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The Relationship Vision

We have an exercise called the relationship vision. It is a deliberate and conscious process that helps us explore what we really want from a relationship.

Companies have vision statements to articulate their values, define their goals, and give employees direction. Relationships need them as well. What’s interesting about this exercise is that it can be morphed into anything such as vacations, finances, raising children, family planning, etc.

What the relationship vision looks like is both partners write out their vision of what they’d like to see happening, in a positive manner, as an affirmation. The other partner then does the same thing. You then incorporate the intentional dialogue with these two visions, so that it’s mirrored, summarized, validated, and empathized with.

ROBIN NEWMAN, LCSW-R, PC
Individual, Couples & Family Therapist

The Huntington Relationship & Therapy Center
148 East Main Street Huntington, NY 11743

“My approach towards couples is oriented not only towards solving the problems the couple is facing, but to revive the feeling of love and affection they have towards each other.”

For more information on couples counseling, contact Robin Newman today.

Long Island couples therapistRobin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.

therapistlongisland@gmail.com

(631) 421-4701

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Long Island Couples Workshop May 4 & 5, 2019
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Long Island Couples Workshop May 4 & 5, 2019

Long Island Couples Workshop May 4 & 5, 2019Become the most connected couple you know with this revolutionary workshop to help you and your partner recapture joy, enhance closeness, communicate effectively, and experience a deeply fulfilling relationship.

Getting The Love You Want:
A Guide For Couples

The New York Times bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship.

Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of people experience more satisfying relationships and is recommended every day by professional therapists and happy couples around the world.

Robin Newman explains how to revive romance and remove negativity from daily interactions, to help you:

Long Island Couples Workshop May 4 & 5, 2019

· Discover why you chose your mate
· Resolve the power struggle that prevents greater intimacy
· Learn to listen – really listen – to your partner
· Increase fun and laughter in your relationship
· Begin healing early childhood experiences
· Become passionate friends with your partner
· Achieve a common vision of your dream relationship

Long Island Couples Workshop May 2019

Imago based workshop – discover what really lies beneath triggered reactions in romantic partnerships and how to make lasting change. Move into more conscious connection and have the relationship of your dreams.

Breakfast, refreshments & snacks included.
Limited space for 5 couples.
$545.00 per couple.

Contact Robin Newman for more information on this Long Island Couples Workshop May 2019

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT
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Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

Getting the Love You Want bookA marriage therapist and counselor explains that most of the feelings of receiving inadequate love come from unresolved childhood conflicts and describes how adults can learn to flourish as loving and loved people.

The New York Times bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship, now fully revised with a new forward and a brand new chapter!

The Getting the Love You Want book has helped millions of people experience more satisfying relationships and is recommended every day by professional therapists and happy couples around the world.

Dr. Harville Hendrix & Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt explain how to revive romance and remove negativity from daily interactions, to help you:

· Discover why you chose your mate
· Resolve the power struggle that prevents greater intimacy
· Learn to listen – really listen – to your partner
· Increase fun and laughter in your relationship
· Begin healing early childhood experiences by stretching into new behaviors 
· Become passionate friends with your partner
· Achieve a common vision of your dream relationship

Officially celebrating 30 years in this edition!

Become the most connected couple you know with this revolutionary guide, combining behavioral science, depth psychology, social learning theory, Gestalt therapy, and interpersonal neuroscience to help you and your partner recapture joy, enhance closeness, and experience the reward of a deeply fulfilling relationship.

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JOIN OUR LONG ISLAND COUPLES WORKSHOPS TO LEARN RELATIONSHIP TIPS FOR A BETTER LIFE

Long Island couples workshops held by Robin Newman, LCSW are a great way to discover what really lies beneath triggered reactions in romantic partnerships and how to make lasting change. Move into more conscious connection and have the relationship of your dreams!

Your daily habits define relationship longevity.

Your daily habits define relationship longevity.

​You are what you do daily… so make good habits for yourself and your relationship! “The happiness of most people …

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