Are we really drawn to partners like our parents?
Couples Workshop February 2020: Are we really drawn to partners like our parents?
Our parents’ business: No person is without a history or context. We are all living out untold, unfinished emotional legacies passed down to us by our parents as conscious discovering individuals. We must live our way through all the things they have not resolved until having come to the place where we have transformed their tragedies and our childhoods. We can finally emerge as ourselves. How do we emerge as ourselves?
Drawn to partners like our parents.
Typically, we are drawn to people that remind us unconsciously of our caregivers. So in a way, we’re trying to push forward to connect with some sort of resolution of whatever it is that hurt us. What is your mother’s unresolved problem? What is your father’s unresolved issue? How have you taken on their unfinished business?
Give your parents’ problems back to them by looking into your future and focusing on what you need to accomplish in your own life.
It’s not your parents’ fault that they did to you what their parents did to them. We always say that in Imago Relationship Therapy. Your parents did the best job they could. But how do we stop ourselves from recreating fractures in relationships that they may have had with one another?
And with this, we’d like to invite you to our next workshop – Getting The Love You Want is like a relationship boot camp for two days. Here is where you learn to see yourself and your partner in a true light and new perspective. Learn to communicate effectively and transform your relationship into a powerful connection with one another.
Don and I very excited to be holding the next Getting The Love You Want couples workshop in Melville, NY on February 21st & 22nd.
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A relationship goes through numerous phases during its life cycle, and it’s obvious for it to have a few rough patches. The strength of a relationship is reflected in how couples deal with the rough patches and move ahead.
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Robin Newman helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy.