Centering exercise before couples speak during therapy
Centering exercise before couples speak during therapy with Robin Newman, LCSW in Long Island, NY.
Whenever I start an Imago session with a couple, they often ask why we do a centering exercise before starting.
Part of why I believe in doing a centering exercises, is first of all, to calm oneself. It also sets up an openness to listen.
I have a therapy dog in this practice and I now like to use the metaphor of trying to see the world through a puppy’s eyes.
Take that puppy-kind-of-attitude and use that when looking at your partner’s stated issues.
Be curious at what they’re saying, opposed to getting defensive, annoyed and/or angry.
“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.”David Augsberger
Imago relationship therapy provides couples with effective communication tools that allow both people to feel safe & connected as they talk about their problems, instead of entering the painful “power struggle”.
When both partners make positive changes that have meaning to the other, it serves as reinforcement and is a catalyst for more positive change. At this time, making changes could seem difficult but this too will probably be explored in the counseling process.